What is love?
According to Robert Sternberg, love can be described by three basic components. These are passion, commitment and intimacy . Features are continuously transformed during the relationship.
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Intimacy
intimacy or closeness to any positive feelings and actions that enhance the attachment of the partners.
According to Sternberg, as conceived in the intimacy include:
- desire to care for the welfare of a partner,
- experiencing happiness in the presence of a partner and with his reason,
- respect for the partner,
- believe that you can count on him in need,
- mutual understanding,
- mutual sharing of experiences and spiritual and material goods,
- giving and receiving emotional support,
- intimate exchange of information,
- regard the partner as an important element in their lives;
emotions that make up the intimacy are largely the result of communication between partners and understand the needs of the beloved.
At the beginning of love, intimacy is low, it increases gradually with the duration of a relationship and even more slowly subsides after reaching its maximum.
Passion
Passion is experiencing strong emotions, both positive and negative. When the intensity of the passion is high, experiencing emotions such as desire, joy, excitement, longing, jealousy, anxiety. States are accompanied by a strong motivation to reach the object of love, physical intimacy, sexual relationships. Often love is identified with a passion.
In the initial stage of falling in love passion is very strong and not susceptible to conscious control. Of whether a given diadzie is passion and it is not, we have no control. Just how quickly the passion growing just as quickly falls, and although it is inevitable that, the decline of passion does not equate to the end of love.
Involvement
commitment to maintaining a relationship is any action aimed at transforming love in a lasting relationship. It is a conscious decision as to whether we want to be in a relationship, whether it is satisfactory to us. So it is a component of love, which they control the intensity. Strong commitment may be a factor in successfully sustaining the compound. In pairs satisfied with the marriage, the commitment is usually the strongest component of maintaining the feeling of love in your relationship.
With the beginning of love, when two people decide to be together, the commitment to gradually rise. When it reaches its maximum level, it usually remains at the end of the relationship.
Phase relation
first Phase in love
begin to develop the three components, with the most rapid expansion passion. There will be specific to the symptoms of love.
second The early phase of romantic
characterized by an increase in intimacy . It is usually short-lived. Awake passion partners often begin to meet, talk about yourself, it's better to know, hence the increase in intimacy. There is also a decision as to maintain the relationship and it goes in the third phase.
third Therefore the complete phase
is characterized by all three components. This usually involves making the decision about the wedding, living together, and so decisions about the duration of the compound. This is the phase of the most satisfactory for the partners and the most saturated with emotion. They are achieving the highest degree of intimacy . Just now they commitment is very strong. The end of this phase is synonymous with the inevitable end passions. The sudden weakening of passion sets the entry into the fourth phase.
4th Phase friendly view
component is devoid of passion that if it was synonymous with love itself, may mean that in a love connection burned out. For many people enter a phase of a friendly connection is the most satisfying period of their relationship. Considering the fact that in this phase is dominated by the involvement , which is dependent on our will, and the intimacy that is only in part also depend on it, we can conclude that the prolongation of this phase is dependent on the willingness of both partners. The problem could be for them to sustain intimacy at a high level, and therefore mutual trust, liking to be willing to assist and receive assistance. If you can not sustain the intimacy, the relationship goes into the last phase.
5th Phase relation blank
characterized Only commitment , which is the only component of sustaining it. Diadem this is the only remnant of love, because relying on the commitment to be reckoned with the possibility that one partner desires change and dispenses with the continuation of such relationship. This is a phase that not necessarily arise , where partners manage to maintain the intimacy . However, when the decline of intimacy, involvement can also maintain a relationship with equally good results. When it comes to this stage most frequently marriage in the sixth phase.
6th Relationship breakdown
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As you can see in the picture, the three components of love may be with you combined in any way create different kinds of love. These components make up the so-called. love triangle, forming various combinations. And brotherly love is a component of the feelings of closeness and commitment, love is a terrible passion and commitment, while romantic love is a feeling of intimacy and passion. Empty love is pure commitment, and passion made up of blindness or are otherwise falling in love. Perfect love is a love triangle as shown in the component feelings of intimacy, passion and commitment. It's love, to which most people seek.
Throughout life stories of people gather their relationships with other people, which means that they have certain expectations for the current and future relationships. Young people experience different kinds of love, sometimes it is a liking, friendship, sometimes falling in love, which goes by so quickly as it appeared, fatal love, which ends when the passion stops, other times it is a romance, which allows you to rise above the gray day everyday. However, most of these experiences prepare people to love doskonałej.
